As a mother who used child care, relax, it is a good thing that your child loves their daycare provider. It doesn't diminish your role in their life and within a few months, this too will pass. If your child cries and screams when you try to drop them off at the daycare provider, which is also going to happen, this is just as disturbing.
Especially with babies and small children, if they can’t be with the one they love, they love the one they are with. This is just the nature of things. Try to imagine you are your child; they are now spending the majority of their waking time with the daycare provider who is meeting all their needs. No one more selfish than an infant or small child; it really is all about them.
The daycare provider feeds them, changes their diaper and interacts with them. They are going to respond in a positive way to this. Their memories are very short at this time and by the time you return from work to pick them up, they have forgotten you are their mother and you are going to do exactly the same as the daycare provider and take care of all their needs.
The best way to deal with this child bond confusion is to love your child when they are with you. Make sure you are not too tired after work to interact and develop bonds with your child. The best advice anyone can give you is "this too shall pass". Your child has shown they know how to bond with another person, that in and of itself is a very good thing. Your child will go through many phases in their life and even in their early development; this is just one of them.
Be patient, it won’t last for long and as long as you are a loving parent the day will come all too soon when your child will be running to greet you when you arrive and screaming and crying when you try to drop them off. Enjoy this phase while you have it, your child is happy and well cared for.
